I lost my Mum to suicide in November, 2013.
It came as a complete shock and I struggled to make sense of it; the whys, what ifs and if onlys swirled around my head. I felt so guilty because I believe there are things I “could have” or “should have” done to save her.
Every night, I hoped and prayed that I would dream of my Mum. I did, very occasionally.
Every day, I played this “game” in my head. It became an obsession and took up all my focus. I wondered, What if I could go back in time only once? What would I do? How would I save my mum?
I came up with all kinds of brilliant ideas, like being in the right place at the right time. Whatever I came up with, there was always a “but.” I was never able to think of the perfect solution - because it doesn’t exist.
I cried myself to sleep at night, and during the day I wore my mask: “I’m all right, I guess.”
I tried different healing modalities, including counseling and peer support groups – but nothing seemed to help. This was when I realized that there is not enough support for suicide loss survivors. But for now, I just kept trying to get through the days.
In 2018, I became a Mum myself. That’s when I knew, things HAD to change – if not for me, then for my newborn baby. So I got serious about healing. I started to explore different approaches. Nothing resonated until I discovered the power of rewiring my brain through Neurocoaching.
I took a 12-week course that transformed everything. It gave me tools to challenge the thoughts that kept me stuck. It helped me forgive myself, let go of my guilt and find inner peace. It helped me process my grief in a way I didn’t think was possible.
What I learned during that time wasn’t just powerful—it was life-changing. I decided to become a Certified Neurocoach so I could help other suicide loss survivors with their untrue and unhelpful thoughts.
Today, I support other suicide loss survivors let go of their guilt, find peace and even joy again.
I combine:
Personal experience as a suicide loss survivor
Science-backed tools that actually help rewire your brain
A safe, judgment-free space where you can be real about what you're feeling
I don’t believe in “moving on.”
I also don’t believe that “time heals all wounds”.
I believe that healing is possible.
Not overnight. Not perfectly. But step by step, together.
I help you recognize your untrue and unhelpful thoughts – which you’re most likely not even aware of but which keep you stuck in your feelings of guilt. We then refute them together and rewire your brain. Your coaching sessions are personalized to you and where you are at right now. We don’t just talk – I give you tools that actually work.
My story, combined with practical tools, brain-based strategies, and the voices of suicide loss survivors, attempt survivors, and grief experts - it’s the book I wish I had when I lost my Mum to suicide.
I’ve hosted five interview series, featuring over 120 conversations with suicide grief and loss experts from all over the world. Topics include letting go of guilt, getting through the Holidays, navigating conversations and finding purpose. Each speaker offers invaluable insights, encouragement and advice.
Why do I still feel so stuck?
Will the guilt ever go away?
How do I move forward without leaving my loved one behind?
Will I ever feel joy again?
Let me say this clearly:
You can let go of your guilt and find inner peace.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
When my beautiful, kind son suddenly and unexpectedly left earth, I spent my days and sleepless nights thinking about him, the whys and what ifs. I felt overwhelmed with sadness. Finding Caro was like finding a light in the darkness. She provided me tools and action steps I could take to help me on this new journey. Most importantly, she helped me feel hope, and was a kind, supportive person I could talk to, who understood what I was going through.
Caro’s process of “re-wiring your brain” has been so powerful for me. She is helping me turn my negative self-talk, as well as the “what if’s”, “I should’ve” and “why’s”, into factual positive thinking. I’ve learned numerous valuable techniques which help me handle intrusive thoughts, guilt, negative self-talk, shame and so much more. I know with Caro’s help and continued practice, I can have a positive grief journey, filled with peace, love, laughter, and joy, all while honoring my son.
Caro’s process of “re-wiring your brain” has been so powerful for me. She is helping me turn my negative self-talk, as well as the “what if’s”, “I should’ve” and “why’s”, into factual positive thinking. I’ve learned numerous valuable techniques which help me handle intrusive thoughts, guilt, negative self-talk, shame and so much more. I know with Caro’s help and continued practice, I can have a positive grief journey, filled with peace, love, laughter, and joy, all while honoring my son.
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